😔 Emotional Signs of an Alcohol Problem

• Mood instability and volatility: Frequent irritability, sudden mood swings, or anger—especially when not drinking.
• Increased anxiety: Tension or restlessness, often heightened in social or sober settings.
• Depression or low mood: Feelings of sadness, guilt, or hopelessness, particularly after drinking.
• Emotional numbness: Difficulty feeling emotions or connecting with others.

🧠 Cognitive and Psychological Signs

• Preoccupation with alcohol: Constantly thinking about the next drink or planning drinking around daily life.
• Denial or defensiveness: Becoming upset or dismissive when drinking is mentioned.
• Guilt or shame: Regret over behaviour while drinking, often followed by broken promises to cut back.
• Low self-esteem: Internalising feelings of failure or worthlessness.
• Impulsivity: Acting rashly under emotional pressure or while drinking.

🧍‍♀️ Behavioural Signs with Emotional Roots

• Social withdrawal: Pulling away from loved ones or isolating oneself.
• Loss of interest: No longer enjoying hobbies, relationships, or routines.
• Neglect of responsibilities: Missing work, childcare, or commitments due to emotional exhaustion or drinking.
• Using alcohol to cope: Relying on drinking to manage stress, trauma, or difficult feelings.
• Secrecy: Hiding drinking habits or feeling embarrassed about them.

⚠️ Emotional Dependence on Alcohol

• Using alcohol to “feel normal”: Drinking to avoid emotional discomfort or withdrawal symptoms.
• Panic or anxiety without access to alcohol: Heightened fear around running out or not having a drink available.
• Increased emotional reactivity when sober: Crying easily, anger outbursts, or general mood instability without alcohol.

If you recognise these signs in someone, approach them gently and do not be judgmental. Explain that you have noticed these changes and are worried about them. If they become angry and defensive or deny any problem try to remember this is about them, not you.

Offer your support and encourage them to talk to someone who can help such as their doctor or a counsellor. Find information on support groups and organisations and let them know there is help available.